If I'm So Smart... Why Do I Fall in Love Like an Idiot?

A Hilarious and Heartwarming Guide to Finding Love Without Losing Your Mind

In her laugh-out-loud funny and insightful book, Gabriela Acher tackles the age-old question: why do smart people make such stupid mistakes in love? Drawing on her own experiences and the latest research in psychology and neuroscience, Acher reveals the hidden forces that drive our romantic choices—and how we can use them to our advantage.

Why Do We Fall in Love with the Wrong People?

Acher argues that we are all wired to fall in love with people who are bad for us. This is because our brains are programmed to seek out partners who are similar to us—and who therefore trigger our deepest insecurities. For example, if you are insecure about your intelligence, you may be drawn to partners who are smarter than you. This can lead to a cycle of self-doubt and disappointment, as you constantly compare yourself to your partner and feel like you come up short.

How to Break the Cycle

Acher offers a number of practical tips for breaking the cycle of falling in love with the wrong people. These include:

• Be aware of your own insecurities. The first step to finding love is to understand what you are looking for in a partner. What are your dealbreakers? What are your must-haves? Once you know what you are looking for, you can start to narrow down your options.
• Don't be afraid to be alone. One of the biggest mistakes people make is rushing into a relationship just to avoid being alone. This is a surefire way to end up in a relationship that is not right for you. If you are not happy being single, you will not be happy in a relationship.
• Trust your gut. Your intuition is a powerful tool that can help you avoid making bad choices in love. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong with a relationship, listen to it. Don't ignore red flags just because you want to be with someone.

Finding the Right Person

Acher believes that everyone deserves to find love. By following her advice, you can increase your chances of finding a partner who is right for you—and who will make you happy.

Praise for If I'm So Smart... Why Do I Fall in Love Like an Idiot?

"A hilarious and insightful look at the science of love. Acher's book is a must-read for anyone who has ever wondered why they make such stupid mistakes in love." —Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

"Gabriela Acher is a brilliant writer and a gifted storyteller. Her book is full of wisdom, humor, and hope. If you are looking for love, this book is a must-read." —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

"Acher's book is a game-changer. It will change the way you think about love and relationships. If you are single, this book is a must-read. If you are in a relationship, this book will help you make it better." —Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence