If You're Not Going to Help, Don't Get in the Way - Follow, Nika Vázquez

If You're Not Going to Help, Don't Get in the Way - Follow, Nika Vázquez

If You're Not Going to Help, Don't Get in the Way: A Guide to Overcoming Obstacles and Achieving Your Goals


In today's fast-paced and competitive world, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by obstacles and challenges. Whether it's a demanding job, a difficult relationship, or a personal setback, it can seem like everything is conspiring to keep you from achieving your goals. But what if I told you that the biggest obstacle to your success isn't any of those things? It's actually the people who are supposed to be helping you.

In her groundbreaking book, If You're Not Going to Help, Don't Get in the Way, Nika Vázquez reveals the hidden truth about the people who hold us back and shows us how to overcome their negative influence. Drawing on her own experiences as a successful entrepreneur and life coach, Vázquez provides a wealth of practical advice and strategies for dealing with difficult people, setting boundaries, and staying focused on your goals.

The Problem with Helpers

We all have people in our lives who mean well, but who actually end up doing more harm than good. These people may be our friends, family members, or even our colleagues. They may be constantly criticizing us, trying to control us, or simply not believing in our ability to succeed.

Vázquez calls these people "helpers" and she argues that they can be just as damaging to our success as any obstacle or challenge. Why? Because they drain our energy, sap our confidence, and make it difficult to stay focused on our goals.

The 5 Types of Helpers

Vázquez identifies five main types of helpers:

  1. The Criticizer: This person is always finding fault with you, no matter what you do. They may criticize your appearance, your work, or your personal life.
  2. The Controller: This person tries to control every aspect of your life. They may tell you what to wear, what to eat, and who to date.
  3. The Doubter: This person doesn't believe in you or your ability to succeed. They may constantly tell you that you're not good enough or that you'll never achieve your goals.
  4. The Victim: This person is always playing the victim. They may constantly complain about their problems and how they're always being treated unfairly.
  5. The Envier: This person is jealous of your success and will do anything to undermine it. They may spread rumors about you, try to sabotage your relationships, or even steal your ideas.

How to Deal with Helpers

Dealing with helpers can be challenging, but it's essential if you want to achieve your goals. Vázquez provides a number of strategies for dealing with difficult people, including:

  • Set boundaries: Let helpers know what behaviors you will and will not tolerate. For example, you might tell them that you don't want to hear their criticism or that you don't want them to try to control your life.
  • Don't take it personally: It's important to remember that helpers are often acting out of their own insecurities. Don't let their negativity get to you.
  • Stay focused on your goals: Keep your eyes on the prize and don't let helpers distract you from your path.
  • Seek support from positive people: Surround yourself with people who believe in you and support your goals.


If you're tired of letting helpers hold you back, then If You're Not Going to Help, Don't Get in the Way is the book for you. This powerful book will show you how to overcome the negative influence of difficult people and achieve your full potential.

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