The Hidden Symmetry of Love - Bert Hellinger
The Hidden Symmetry of Love: A Revolutionary Approach to Healing Relationships
In this groundbreaking book, renowned family therapist Bert Hellinger reveals the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships and offers a revolutionary approach to healing them. Drawing on his decades of experience working with families, Hellinger has discovered that our relationships are often governed by unconscious patterns that can lead to conflict, pain, and estrangement.
The Family Constellation
One of the most important concepts in Hellinger's work is the family constellation. A family constellation is a representation of the relationships within a family, and it can be used to identify the hidden dynamics that are causing problems. By looking at the constellation, Hellinger can see how the members of a family are connected to each other and how their relationships are affecting them.
The Orders of Love
Hellinger has also identified a set of "orders of love" that govern our relationships. These orders include:
- The order of precedence: This order states that the people who came before us in our family have precedence over us. This means that we need to respect our parents and other ancestors and acknowledge their place in our lives.
- The order of balance: This order states that we need to give and receive equally in our relationships. When we give more than we receive, we create an imbalance that can lead to resentment. When we receive more than we give, we create a debt that we can never repay.
- The order of belonging: This order states that everyone in our family belongs, regardless of their behavior. This means that we need to accept our family members for who they are, even if we don't like them.
Healing Our Relationships
Hellinger's work offers a powerful way to heal our relationships and create more love and harmony in our lives. By understanding the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships, we can begin to change them. We can learn to let go of the past, forgive our family members, and create new, healthy relationships.
The Hidden Symmetry of Love is a must-read for anyone who wants to improve their relationships and create a more fulfilling life.
Here are some of the things you will learn from this book:
- How to identify the hidden dynamics that are causing problems in your relationships
- How to heal your relationships with your parents, siblings, children, and other family members
- How to create more love and harmony in your life
- How to find your place in the world and live a more fulfilling life